I was pwned at Face book.
No one to blame, my
fault.. just my fault.
Someone (not just
someone, a crusader duo determined to salvage this country) was
deliberating in the wise Tuco style, how there are two kinds of
people in this world, Those with an organ and no brain called rape
culturists, and those with a machete on their tongues to chop down
the former - to the group they baptize themselves into. I poked my
nose, totally unsolicited. My fault. But I try to clear my side in
the weakest of my voice. Couldn’t they prevent these vagabonds from wandering in to their forbidden realm?. Are they not aware that
Zuckerberg's crew have set options for that? Any way this duo were
the friends of my two very sensible FB friends. That’s why I dared.
I am not a good fighter.
I have innate handicaps. My parents were simple,
straightforward and decent people and the only way they ever knew to
bring up their children were those. So the S- word, F – word and
the likes wont come handy with me. A serious handicap as long as you
are arguing at a social forum! Moreover, I didn't believe squeezing
calf muscles is good enough a cerebral exercise to be an authority on
anything and everything. And also, I would have anticipated disaster
where sheer stupidity weds (or even living in with) narcissism.
Now, enough is enough.
I made a comment there, something like this.. (and I still hold on to
that) “Rape is something males have to unlearn and not getting
raped is something that females have to learn”. That stirred up the hornets nest. One of my
co-commenter asks, what if someone like me breaches a girl, would she
be held responsible for not closing the door? The Duo themselves ask,
what if someone dear to me get raped, will I find reasons myself to
justify the act? Did you get that? These are autopsies. Our idea is
not, get raped and then argue over who is at fault. I don’t believe
in that. I will never ever blame a raped girl for not closing her
door, but if she had done that we will be left with less chances to
feel sorry for her. And if any of my dear ones hang out with some
known criminals and get raped, I will have to share a bit of blame
on her too..
Now coming to some
science. What you think why we are here? If you think we are created
by that silver bearded man living in the clouds up there, read no further. You won't understand what am saying. Evolutionary
biology believes, we and every living things here are just flow of
genes. If you are a bit philosophical, can say something like this,
our bodies are just vehicles for the genes. And the sole motto of
these genes are to survive and propagate. So they will do anything to
survive and propagate. Females, burdened with the responsibility of
child bearing and upbringing have limitation with numbers. The number
of times their genes can be propagated is limited. So females are
more concerned with quality of reproduction, they want whatever small
number their genes propagated, to survive. They pick their
reproductive partner wisely. That’s why females don’t want to sex
with every Tom, Dick and Harry.
But in contrary, males
don’t need to be limited in numbers. (confused?, they don’t have
to spend time on pregnancy.) The more they seed, the more they
reproduce. Got it? So male's reproductive success is on numbers, they
don’t care much on quality. They try to seed wherever they can.
Here I again remind you, this is pure science and not moral science.
So, the idea distills to
this, males go for quantity while females for quality. That’s why
males run around seeding and even raping and females resisting. They
are all in genes. That’s why I said: “ Rape is something males
have to unlearn and not getting raped is something females have to
learn”.
So now you think, why
this S-head is so blunt? Me getting very emotional wont change a
thing on genes written over millions of years of evolution.
Now you ask, if rape is
written on genes, why not all men run around raping? I can explain.
Raising an own family have a better trade off with running around for better
reproductive success. In a world of fierce competition, that offered
better safety. Rape was not a rare thing till recent past. The only
difference was that it was not called so. Heard of rulers keeping
hundreds of wives and thousands of concubines?Lesser number wives and
concubines for men lower in hierarchy and no women for men lowest.
These were glorified rapes. Did you know some kingdoms even had laws
to punish women who denied sex to men belonging to upper class? These
were all rapes. Then Zeitgeist had its say in reforming us all. So
here we are.
But there are lot many
out there less reformed. So is it wrong to take a little bit
precaution to protect ourselves? Any sane mind wont disagree. So if
your idea is to prevent rape, take your own precaution. It pays. If
your idea is to argue on who is responsible, yell around. You will
get noticed.